debris4spike: (M&D wedding)
Yesterday I drove to Nick & Brenda's to have lunch with them to celebrate their Silver Wedding Anniversary.

We had a nice lunch, with a couple who are close friends from Church, then back to their house for the photos.  Brenda and I also had a great walk before I headed back home.  A great day, that I really enjoyed.

Sadly Tim & Claire were busy, as were her siblings ... although more sadly her Dad had a stroke last wek.  So I was the only one there, but I wouldn;t have missed it for anything.

23/05/1992-
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25 years on-
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And a few of the family )
debris4spike: (James - silhouette)
I haven't turned on LJ in weeks.  I haven't been to music group ... although I have managed to work most of my shifts, and get to Church.

I have been stuck in LIMBO, and am really having to fight to escape.

I am on the countdown to my holiday ... yet am struggling to feel happy about it.  However I have started to sort out my clothes, so that's a step on the way.

I have also started councelling.

So, all in all I will wake up in time for my holiday.

Anyway, in those missing weeks I have missed being part of the friendship and community .... but sadly not enough to break through this terrible darkness.  Today Christine and I went out for lunch and a walk, and that has focussed me enough that I am typing this.

SORRY!

Anyway, I have done a few random things in those weeks ....

  • Went to Auntie Joyce as she asked for help to sort out her garage.  When I got there she changed her mind.  Sadly she also tried re-hashing old family tensions (from before my birth!!).  Then I got stuck in traffic on the way home ... so not the greatest of weekends at all.

  • Jiffy has turned 11, but has managed to stay pretty healthy recently.  So good news, although I suppose he is sad that he hasn't had a chance to visit his much loved vet.

  • Got my bra fitting done and am a inches measurement smaller.  So maybe the gym work is helping after all.

  • Had an opticians appointment and am sadly losing a bit more of the field of vision in my right eye.  I had the retinal op 28 years ago, so am happy to have my sight at all.

  • Dan (19) and Tom (17) have passed their driving tests ... so all the eligible boys are drivers now.

  • Auntie Mary came over for a meal.  She was Mum's best friend, and came down on a coach trip to the area so that she could see me.  It was really special to see her ...  really lovely.  One of thos times when you want to slow the minutes down.

Well it seems as if that's it.  As I said these last few weeks have just drifted past.  I am going to aim to post some of my photos from today's walk this evening.  However I warn you now, that plan my not work.

Hope you are all OK ... any news, let me know please .... and SORRY again

My 4 Boys!

Sunday, March 12th, 2017 10:06 am
debris4spike: (Family)
I am being a good girl, photos yesterday, photo today.  Just sitting catching up with Instagram before I head to Church and saw this super photo of my 4 nephews taken yesterday -

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Tom (17), Dan (19), Andrew (21) and Joe (14)
debris4spike: (Family)
Day 25 → a photo of you and your family

Obviously none this year - but here are a couple from the last few years. This one was taken when we were on holiday in Kos in 2007 ... we went over for a day trip to Turkey
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2012 - Mum & Dad's Diamond Anniversary
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And, our last family photo - March 2015, on Tim & Claire's Silver Anniversary.
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debris4spike: (Dad)
10 days on and I am getting round to writing a bit about dad's funeral.. Like with Mum we all took part, with the 4 boys doing the readings.

Tom started proceedings with this ...

When Tomorrow Starts Without Me

When tomorrow starts without me, and I'm not here to see,
If the sun should rise and find your eyes, filled with tears for me.

I wish so much you wouldn't cry, the way you did today,
While thinking of the many things, we didn't get to say.

I know how much you love me, as much as I love you,
And each time you think of me, I know you'll miss me too.

When tomorrow starts without me, don't think we're far apart.
For every time you think of me, I'm right there in your heart.

But when tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand.
That God came and called my name and took me by the hand.

He said my place is ready in heaven for above,
And that I have to leave behind all those I dearly love.

But as I turned to walk away a tear fell from my eye,
For all my life I'd always thought it wasn't my time to die.

I had so much to live for and so much yet to do,
It seems almost impossible that I was leaving you.

I thought of all the yesterdays the good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared and all the fun we had.

If I could have stayed for just a little while,
I'd say goodbye and kiss you and maybe see you smile.

But then I fully realize that this could never be,
For emptiness and memories would take the place of me.

And when I thought of worldly things that I'd miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you and when I did my heart was filled with sorrow.

But when I walked through Heaven's gate and felt so much at home,
As God looked down and smiled at me form his great golden throne.

He said this is eternity and all I've promised you,
Today your life on earth is past but here it starts anew.

I promise no tomorrow but today will always last,
And since each day's the same here there's no longing for the past.

So when tomorrow starts without me don't think we're far apart,
For every time you think of me I'm right here in your heart.
        By: Jamie Leigh Dale

Tim was actually leading the service, but Tom started first.  We had 3 hymns that Dad chose years ago as well as Dan and Tom doing Bible readings.  Again Nick asked me and I knew what Dad's favourite chapters were .... 1 John 1 and Revelation 21.  The final reading the boys did was this poem read by Joe ...

The Broken Chain

We little knew the day that
God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly,
In death we do the same.

It broke our hearts to lose you
But you didn’t go alone.
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home.

You left us peaceful memories.
Your love is still our guide,
And though we cannot see you
You are always at our side.

Our family chain is broken
and nothing seems the same,
but as God calls us one by one
the chain will link again.
      by Ron Tranmer


Nick chose one poem, and Tim the other ... and they just fitted in so well for my daddy
debris4spike: (James - buzz cut & name.)
Happy Birthday [livejournal.com profile] jen_nsync_landl ... hope you are having a good day.

Yesterday Brenda sent me a link to this photo .... her 5 boys, she said.  They are on holiday, so it seems as if they are enjoying family time together.

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Nick, Dan, Andrew, Joe & Tom

This morning I had to go to Mum & Dad's to meet the gas engineer to service the boiler, and then the people who are doing the final empty and clean of Mum & Dad's.  It'a the start of the end, and yet it still hasn't sunk in.  This last year has passed over me, yet somehow I can't come to terms with things.

Dad is ok, although a bit low emotionally and finding this warmer weather harder to cope with.  But the staff are monitoring him, and I have managed to get in 5 days a week.  I ususally take Jiffy about every 10 days.  Dad loves seeing "the boy" as he always calls him, and he livens up the staff no end.

Speaking of Jiffy I also took him back to the vets this morning.  He had an infection in his right anal gland.  I have been having to apply warm compresses to him, and it's getting batter.  If it hadn't improved it would have meant surgery, so that's good news.

Once we had seen Marni we went for a walk locally to her ...Brunel Woods )

Oh well, back to work tomorrow ... but only for the day, then out again with Christine on Friday.

Hope you are all having fun x
debris4spike: (Vampire Diaries - Brothers)
I thought I would post this picture of the family taken at Nick's 50th.  Sadly I couldn't get there as I was too ill .... maybe that is what caused some of the upset, but at the time it took me all my strength to drive the 2 miles to dad, rather than the 150 to Nick.

Anyway - here they are ...  )

Merry Christmas

Saturday, December 26th, 2015 05:08 pm
debris4spike: (With James - Christmas)
At long last I am getting a few minutes of time, and I hope that as the New Year approaches I shall be able to be regular visitor again.  So much of the future is settled, but still a lot up in the air.  However this post is more about Christmas ... I had hoped to post something in the last couple of days but life was hectic, and I was both exhausted and felt totally in limbo.

Thirteen weeks ago Mum, Dad & I were talking about Christmas and the vague plans for those times.  Now that Christmas is here, those weeks have paid a heavy toll on all of us, and has ended with "us 3 kids" feeling totally in limbo.

This was taken by one of the nurses at a Carol concert we went to at the home -
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Christmas was still a special time.  Because of Dad, Nick and family came down Christmas Eve ... and came to me for lunch.  I had offered to cook, but they said that the chippy at the end of my road would be great.

Christmas Eve  )

Christmas Day started with a lovely walk for Jiffy and myself, then when we got back he KNEW that Santa had been to visit!

Santa Clause is coming to town )

I then went to pick up Tim & Claire, and we went to Mum's grave and onto Dad. Dad was snoozy when we got there but after a cup of tea, he was bright and cheery ... it was a joy to see. We chatted, laughed, and it was a joy to see Dad being Dad again.

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And so back quite late to Tim & Claire's for Christmas Dinner.

My baby brother )

Family Catch-Up Photos

Wednesday, August 5th, 2015 09:31 pm
debris4spike: (Captain John - hands on belt)
As I said Nick, Brenda and the boys came for Saturday lunch (and a few hours) ... so thought I would share a few pictures to catch you up with what they are like now ....

Family )
debris4spike: (Spuffy - Burning Hands (animated))
Yes, it was a good time.  Brenda and I managed not to poison anyone.  It was just a relaxing family day ... although there were a few tears choked while we listened to a recording of them taking their vows, especially as Dad was the person who married them.

Anyway, here are a few of the family photos - Happy Families )
debris4spike: (Family)
On the Saturday all the family arrived to celebrate Dad's birthday.

Andrew was the first to arrive as I picked him up from the station (my brother Tim had arranged to do that, but somehow decided it would be too much, so organised me ... still it meant I got a chance for a bit of a chat with him, so that was good).  About 1/2 hour after we got back Tim & Claire arrived, and about 10 mins later Nick & Brenda and the remaining 3 boys arrived ... so all there!

Brenda and Claire had arranged the food between them ... to make things easier, although I still had the house to organise, and bought the drinks.  Claire did dinner, and Brenda puddings (home-made cheesecake and pineapple upsidedown cake ... yummy!)

Dinner is served )

Then Dad had a snooze while some of us took Jiffy for a walk ... and so to the pressies from the N&T
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As ever when family get together it's a time of relaxation and chat ... although I know that old habits die hard and as I find myself retreating as I did when I was bullied as a teen.  I love my family dearly, but even they can make me feel on the outside.

The family )

And so to tea.  Again, Brenda had made cakes (Joey had made brownies) and Claire had done the savouries.

Although, Mum made the actual cake - she has always made him one and despite her sight problems, still wanted to do it.

Tea" )

And sadly soon time to head home ... well, it was eventually.  Nicks diesel car had a flat battery, so Tim went and bought jump leads from an all night garage ... and plugged it onto my car

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A good day - and another one that Dad enjoyed.

***

PS
For the observant - there was a bunch of flowers on the table.

When Dad went out to buy the paper he came back with them.  He knew he wanted to buy them, but couldn't (sadly) remember why.  Well, Mum & Dad moved in together 18 months after their marriage ... the week of dad's birthday, and since then on the Saturday after his birthday he has always bought her a plant or flowers.  So sad he had forgotten the reason, but lovely to see the thought was still there.
debris4spike: (Colourblind)
So much for keeping in touch - the last week has gone, I have missed birthdays, I have missed your news - I am a poor friend.

Anyway - it was Mum's birthday over the weekend, which was good.  She is not emotionally very well at all - Having suffered from nervous problems all her life the last few months has really taken it's toll.  Still on the Sunday she had Nick & Brenda come over in the afternoon ... and what she didn't know is that they were also going to bring the 4 boys.  So that was a real treat for her.  A lovely afternoon was had by us all.

For me it was a bit hectic as I drove to Exeter (30 minute drive) to collect Claire from the hospital and take her home (their car is very low-slung) ... it was great to see her getting home, all be it very wobbly.  I went round Monday morning, as well, and she was already a little stronger.

New fridge-freezer arrived Monday afternoon, as my last one died.  Now I have a new shiny "empty" appliance ... can't afford to put food in it, now I have paid for it ... LOL

I was able to get to Bible Study on Tuesday ... we are now starting the book of Revelation.  I always find those evenings fascinating as the rest are Filipino, ex-Catholics ... so their Bible teaching and heritage is so different to mine.  We have great evenings, and I always come out feeling blessed.

So - what have I missed?  I hope if there is any news you will let me know.

*hugs*

PS - just had to use the new icon I made ... I amused myself, even though I haven't a clue what the dots say ... so hope it's nothing rude!  I must get some more icons made.
debris4spike: (Spike redeemed)

What a hectic few days ... work  last week

 

Mum's birthday on Saturday ... Nick, Brenda and boys came for a suprise visit today .. which really made her day.

 

Claire got out of hospital today ... she has been having problems as she has been reacting to the painkillers so its been a hard few days ... I drove to Exeter from Toequay to pick her up as my car is easier to get into ... then back to get tea for mum!!  Tim said it wad ok ... but I would not have not done that for them.

 

Tomorrow I cant work as I am having a new fridge freezer as mine died last week.

 

So busy ... will try and catch up asap.

 

debris4spike: (Dragonball)
It was lovely on Saturday to take Mum, Dad & Jiffy to Nick & Brenda's for the day. We had a great time. We had planned to go at the end of the summer, but what I haven't told you all is that my brother lost his job ... so things were very tense then. He is still out of work, but I am pleased to say he is more relaxed than I expected ... I do worry about him as he is an over-weight smoker ... and we have a history of Strokes in the family. So it was good to see him more relaxed than I expected ....Dinner time )

One thing I do want to share for the non-Brits is Torville & Dean. We had a big BBC fund raiser on Friday night and Torville & Dean and arranged to dance with 2 of the pros from Strictly Come Dancing ... Amazing.




And, last but not least, Happy Birthday, today [livejournal.com profile] crimson_newmoon

Escaping ....

Wednesday, August 7th, 2013 04:26 pm
debris4spike: (James - my name)
Decorating!

I have had a quiet start to my week, so decided to be positive and start decorating my lounge.  For those who remember I had some water damage to the ceiling soon after I moved in due to the poor bathroom.  So that has been my excuse to ignore the state ... it needs to dry.  But I really want to get on and get it done.  So the ceiling is painted, half the woodwork, and about 1/4 of the walls.  There is quite a bit of furniture in there - cabinets as well as the settee and seat, so it's a case of doing a corner at a time.  Not the traditional way, but it works!

Anyway, I have had enough ... one disadvantage of being single, no one to work with, so I get fed up easily!

Oh well, yesterday I also got my fridge/freezer defrosted in my spare time, so that was good.

Also a good clarinet practice done.  I am playing again in a concert in Bude in September.  What I haven't told you is that I have had to replace my clarinet, and even though I got a second-hand one, that was money I was not expecting to have to pay out ... so my bank balance is more than empty (thank you Mummy for the loan!)

On a final note before I get back to some more work (... not that I shall do much more today! ), I thought you might like to see this picture of my brother Nick and his family.  We don't usually get pictures of him, let alone everyone together - it was taken by my eldest nephew's girlfriend while they were all on holiday last week.

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Brenda, Tom (13),
Joe (10), Dan (15), Andrew (17 ... almost 18)
Nick

And for those who don't know, my brother is almost 5 years younger than me ... that picture made me feel truly ancient!


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debris4spike: (M&D wedding)
We had a wonderful day on Saturday ... the food went well, everyone made the effort to spend time with M&D (including the younger boys) ... and even the weather behave do we could get some pictures outside.

All in all Mum & Dad felt that it was lovely, so that was the main thing.

Nick got the 4 boys to read out some facts about 1952 and 2012, and Andrew said a prayer of dedication, as well as the 4 of them singing a hymn -

Lord, for the years your love has kept and guided,
urged and inspired us, cheered us on our way,
sought us and saved us, pardoned and provided:
Lord for the years, we bring our thanks today.


That truly made M&D's day.

Tim read an inspirational story about faith, and both Mum and Dad talked about some of the "weird" family history.

They loved the vase, and later admitted they were glad we had done it.  We had all bought plants for the garden as extra gifts, and I had also had a tree planted in Northamptonshire (the county they married in), as there are some re-planting programmes going on at present.  It is a field maple, which is a native to England, but has a family link as Mum's Mum was actually born in Canada.

Anyway, words can't really sum up the day - just to say it went really well - and here are a few of the family pictures from the day -

Here is the rabble )

debris4spike: (M&D wedding)
We had a wonderful day on Saturday ... the food went well, everyone made the effort to spend time with M&D (including the younger boys) ... and even the weather behave do we could get some pictures outside.

All in all Mum & Dad felt that it was lovely, so that was the main thing.

Nick got the 4 boys to read out some facts about 1952 and 2012, and Andrew said a prayer of dedication, as well as the 4 of them singing a hymn -

Lord, for the years your love has kept and guided,
urged and inspired us, cheered us on our way,
sought us and saved us, pardoned and provided:
Lord for the years, we bring our thanks today.


That truly made M&D's day.

Tim read an inspirational story about faith, and both Mum and Dad talked about some of the "weird" family history.

They loved the vase, and later admitted they were glad we had done it.  We had all bought plants for the garden as extra gifts, and I had also had a tree planted in Northamptonshire (the county they married in), as there are some re-planting programmes going on at present.  It is a field maple, which is a native to England, but has a family link as Mum's Mum was actually born in Canada.

Anyway, words can't really sum up the day - just to say it went really well - and here are a few of the family pictures from the day -

Here is the rabble )

debris4spike: (Riding Jaykub)
I have realised that I never posted the pics from my 50th ... my family.  All behind a cut so that I didn't have to make them smaller ... but be warned, it's a 9 pics that you will be looking at! They were all taken 2 days after the actual date - this one was taken on the actual day.

Read more... )
debris4spike: (Riding Jaykub)
I have realised that I never posted the pics from my 50th ... my family.  All behind a cut so that I didn't have to make them smaller ... but be warned, it's a 9 pics that you will be looking at! They were all taken 2 days after the actual date - this one was taken on the actual day.

Read more... )

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