An Update On Time!!
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debris4spikeActually have a free moment to update, again, and find that yesterday was the 12 ... so thought I would do my ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
monthlydiaryday update ... so you know what I was up to yeasterday.
A lazy start to the day, which was nice, as I haven't really been sleeping well every day.
After Dad and I had breakfast we drove to my house. Once there, as the weather was gorgeous, I did some of the gardening I had been planning for the last 6 months ... and even got Dad involved doing some work with the bark round the edge of the patio.
We had lunch and then I went off to the hospital I work at to get a flu jab, and to speak to my department that I have been working at. They have been so friendly and helpful all year and I had arrived at my place to see a card signed by most of the department in sympathy for the loss of mum. I spoke about my hope to get back there a few hours a week, and they said whatever I could manage would be really great.
Sadly when I got back Dad was in a bit of a panic as he had mislaid Jiffy's lead ... so I found that and they went for a short walk. When they came back, Dad lay down for a short time and I took Jiffy out again.
Then back home for tea, and in the evening we watched a couple of Waltons episodes.
Yes, Dad does have panics ... this afternoon we spent a lot of time going through photo albums as he was all muddled as to mum, his sister and his mother ... where they lived, etc. I think I got him square again ... but so, so sad to see.
I have written a basic eulogy, so have sent it to Nick to see what he thinks .... Tomorrow I must take our cards down to the florist, because, although Mum is not being buried locally, we are getting the wreath from a local shop, as Dad knows them well (they also sell pet food).
Thank you for your love & support - it is what is carrying me through.
monthlydiaryday update ... so you know what I was up to yeasterday.A lazy start to the day, which was nice, as I haven't really been sleeping well every day.
After Dad and I had breakfast we drove to my house. Once there, as the weather was gorgeous, I did some of the gardening I had been planning for the last 6 months ... and even got Dad involved doing some work with the bark round the edge of the patio.
We had lunch and then I went off to the hospital I work at to get a flu jab, and to speak to my department that I have been working at. They have been so friendly and helpful all year and I had arrived at my place to see a card signed by most of the department in sympathy for the loss of mum. I spoke about my hope to get back there a few hours a week, and they said whatever I could manage would be really great.
Sadly when I got back Dad was in a bit of a panic as he had mislaid Jiffy's lead ... so I found that and they went for a short walk. When they came back, Dad lay down for a short time and I took Jiffy out again.
Then back home for tea, and in the evening we watched a couple of Waltons episodes.
Yes, Dad does have panics ... this afternoon we spent a lot of time going through photo albums as he was all muddled as to mum, his sister and his mother ... where they lived, etc. I think I got him square again ... but so, so sad to see.
I have written a basic eulogy, so have sent it to Nick to see what he thinks .... Tomorrow I must take our cards down to the florist, because, although Mum is not being buried locally, we are getting the wreath from a local shop, as Dad knows them well (they also sell pet food).
Thank you for your love & support - it is what is carrying me through.
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Date: 2015-12-20 02:37 pm (UTC)That is a lovely analogy, poring from an empty cup. I will admit I do use every rop!!
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Date: 2015-10-13 09:01 pm (UTC)I do hope that you can get back to work even for a few hours a week, it is good to have something that's yours.
And you are so very much in my thoughts
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Date: 2015-12-20 02:38 pm (UTC)I am hoping to get some regular shifts sorted in the New Year.
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Date: 2015-10-13 09:06 pm (UTC)I am thinking of you all, and remember you in my prayers - I hope you all cope well with the funeral.
Good to hear, too, that the department would be happy to have you back even for a few hours here or there.
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Date: 2015-12-20 02:40 pm (UTC)I am hoping to get a few days a week regular work in the same dept come the New Year. They wanted a Grade 4 (I am a 2), but have said that as they know me, they know they could train me for the specific task ... so I shall wait and see
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Date: 2015-10-14 09:27 am (UTC)Stay strong and do make sure you care for yourself as well.
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Date: 2015-12-20 02:41 pm (UTC)By now my plans that I typed here have gone ... but new plans are sorting out, and I know Dad will not be alone.
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Date: 2015-12-20 02:42 pm (UTC)Sadly, Dad had a stroke the week after the funeral and is now not well enough to live at home, so this week he went into care ... hard choices.
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Date: 2015-12-20 02:42 pm (UTC)Our God is great. Thank you
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Date: 2015-10-20 08:45 pm (UTC)My dad isn't having panic attacks but mislaid several things. How fun to hunt these when it happens.
*hugs*
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Date: 2015-12-20 02:43 pm (UTC)Don't worry - I can never find a thing!! I hope things are well with your dad now.
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Date: 2015-12-20 05:42 pm (UTC)I don't know how much you remember or what I've posted *checks* it was in October. The cancer was back, in this bones already but the last kidney was failing too. I updated on Dec. 15th what happened. In this case it was a grace he got to die before he started to be constantly in pain. It still feels too soon. *sigh*
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Date: 2015-12-20 06:58 pm (UTC)As you say, he died before the intense pain took over. Mum was like that, unconscious for that last week. Sad to see, but we knew she wasn't suffering.
I do pray that you are able to find some peace over Christmas ... I wish we were nearer.