Just Catching You Up - If You Want To Know ...
Monday, December 14th, 2009 08:36 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
debris4spikeAt long last I am getting round to updating about me! I keep saying I am going to, but haven't got around to sitting down in front of the pc, and focussing on typing.
Health
I am, at long last, feeling a lot better - I finished a week of cough suppressant treatment today, and hadn't realised how tiring coughing was! I have had assorted coughs for years, but this last month was horrendous.
Now I have to wait to see if the week will have broken the pattern and allowed the lungs to heal enough.
The final diagnosis I had, btw, was that of flu - and the problem was that, having had the flu jab, the symptoms were not all present. so, I suppose, the good news is that if I hadn't had the jab, I would have been really ill! The penicillin kicked in though, and I am feeling vaguely human again.
Work
Business is still poor, even though nothing has changed in my working status. So, it confirms I am making the correct decision in closing the busines.
New Carreer
As some of you know, I looked into driving instucting. It still seems a reasonable idea - but it is a lot of money, with no guarantee of a paid job at the end. Some of my hopes is to come out of being self-employed, and that would keep me in the same status.
I went for the interview, and passed, but although I said I would be in touch about signing up, I have heard nothing from them - which, again makes me question the business itself. However, as they don't know I have decided, at this point, not to go through with it, that door is still open!
I spoke to a couple of very un-helpful carrees officers - who both said, once I know what job I want they would help me. I thought they were meant to help show me what options were available.
However I also spoke to someone who was very helpful and positive - and has given me lots of links to look into. So, although at this point I have no real news, he gave me lots of starting points and places to explore - which I am gradually working through.
Housing
Having spoken to both Toni and![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
kudagirl who gave different views, I also spoke to Mum and Dad.
I am concerned about their health - and admitted (to a small degree) that to them. They, however don't want me to move to the same address, but to get a job wherever I can - and then move ... and they want to downsize, so they will probably move nearer to me. The overall great thing about that is that they are still thinking of future plans, which is great - and are not crossing themselves off life.
It was the answers that I (selfishly) had wanted - but it was good that we were able to talk - and broach, to a small degree, painful subjects.
So - as you see, still lots of non answers - but still wanted to update you all. Thanks for those who have commeneted in the past - your support and friendship means a lot.
Health
I am, at long last, feeling a lot better - I finished a week of cough suppressant treatment today, and hadn't realised how tiring coughing was! I have had assorted coughs for years, but this last month was horrendous.
Now I have to wait to see if the week will have broken the pattern and allowed the lungs to heal enough.
The final diagnosis I had, btw, was that of flu - and the problem was that, having had the flu jab, the symptoms were not all present. so, I suppose, the good news is that if I hadn't had the jab, I would have been really ill! The penicillin kicked in though, and I am feeling vaguely human again.
Work
Business is still poor, even though nothing has changed in my working status. So, it confirms I am making the correct decision in closing the busines.
New Carreer
As some of you know, I looked into driving instucting. It still seems a reasonable idea - but it is a lot of money, with no guarantee of a paid job at the end. Some of my hopes is to come out of being self-employed, and that would keep me in the same status.
I went for the interview, and passed, but although I said I would be in touch about signing up, I have heard nothing from them - which, again makes me question the business itself. However, as they don't know I have decided, at this point, not to go through with it, that door is still open!
I spoke to a couple of very un-helpful carrees officers - who both said, once I know what job I want they would help me. I thought they were meant to help show me what options were available.
However I also spoke to someone who was very helpful and positive - and has given me lots of links to look into. So, although at this point I have no real news, he gave me lots of starting points and places to explore - which I am gradually working through.
Housing
Having spoken to both Toni and
kudagirl who gave different views, I also spoke to Mum and Dad. I am concerned about their health - and admitted (to a small degree) that to them. They, however don't want me to move to the same address, but to get a job wherever I can - and then move ... and they want to downsize, so they will probably move nearer to me. The overall great thing about that is that they are still thinking of future plans, which is great - and are not crossing themselves off life.
It was the answers that I (selfishly) had wanted - but it was good that we were able to talk - and broach, to a small degree, painful subjects.
So - as you see, still lots of non answers - but still wanted to update you all. Thanks for those who have commeneted in the past - your support and friendship means a lot.
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Date: 2009-12-14 08:37 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2009-12-14 09:07 pm (UTC)Patience is hard - but since I have made these seemingly scary decisions I have felt really peaceful about it.
I just need to know my next step.
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Date: 2009-12-14 09:15 pm (UTC)I do think wise not to live in the same house. You are all used to your own space.
As for the driving instructor tuition. My friend trained with the British School of Motoring and at the time they guaranteed work for a set period of time.
Sending *hugs* as can't offer much else! Oh and thanks for the card. :D Your's in on its way.
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Date: 2009-12-15 08:51 am (UTC)Yes, the Mum&Dad talk was good - one of those things I didn't want to face - but better to do it now, rather than at a time I "have" to - LOL
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Date: 2009-12-14 09:23 pm (UTC)So even if nothing definite, you have a couple of things clearer in your own mind, and that has got to be good.
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Date: 2009-12-15 08:52 am (UTC)Overall I feel I am facing 2010 with lots of positives.
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Date: 2009-12-14 09:37 pm (UTC)Yay for getting some actual helpful advice in the career end.
Yay for elderly parents looking to the future and making plans to move closer to you. May you have them around for a good long time and in relatively good health (mental and physical).
I know you're still in a state of flux, but it sounds like things are starting (ever so slowly) to come together. I hope that 2010 brings more positive and concrete answers for you. :D
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Date: 2009-12-15 08:52 am (UTC)Overall I feel I am facing 2010 with lots of positives.
Thank you.
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Date: 2009-12-14 09:45 pm (UTC)Very good news.
but it was good that we were able to talk - and broach, to a small degree, painful subjects.
Yes, true but some things have to be faced eventually.
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Date: 2009-12-15 08:53 am (UTC)Yes, the Mum&Dad talk was good - one of those things I didn't want to face - but better to do it now, rather than at a time I "have" to - LOL
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Date: 2009-12-14 11:08 pm (UTC)You are at a crossroads right now. Don't make any snap judgments about how to change. When I divorced my ex, I made a very bad choice to have a roommate which gave me much grief. Moving away from my ex and not moving back home was good. It was just moving in with a sort of friend which soured me on roommates. I chose to move to a larger city about 60 miles away from my mom instead of going back home. I enjoyed my freedom, but was close enough I could spend time with my mom.
I was the caretaker in the family so I spent a lot of time with my mother and grandmother while she was still alive. I wouldn't give up those memories for anything. Make memories with your family and you will never regret it.
How will it effect DJ if you move? Will you still be close enough to be with him daily?
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Date: 2009-12-15 08:57 am (UTC)I so agree - my memories are already so brilliant - and I know how important they are ... and will be.
Sadly, DJ was another decision I had to make - sorry, I thought I had posted that ... maybe I didn't! No I will be too far away, where ever I move. I have already spoken to Toni and she knows that when it all "happens" he will revert to her. as he is only on loan. She was teasing him yesterday about him losing his mane!!! She likes her horses naked on the neck! Easier to care for, I will admit. So, as I have faced the goodbye now, it's more memories to build ... although I know the actual time will be hard.
Thank you for being a good friend.
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Date: 2009-12-14 11:48 pm (UTC)Things will look up.
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Date: 2009-12-15 12:09 am (UTC)I have the same issues with my mom-she is getting older and we're beginning to think of alternative housing solutions also.
((hugs)) I know exactly how you feel right now about closing your business. It's a difficult decision and doesn't come lightly. I wish you all the luck in the world, Deb.
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Date: 2009-12-15 09:02 am (UTC)Yes, the Mum&Dad talk was good - one of those things I didn't want to face - but better to do it now, rather than at a time I "have" to - LOL
Thank you - the support from my friends ios really helping.
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Date: 2009-12-15 01:47 am (UTC)I am glad your health has improved. That is a good thing.
One step at a time. Investigating work opportunities is time consuming but woth while. Talking to your parents cleared some questions for you, too.
Pray that next year will bring solutions for you.
PS Thank you for the lovely card!
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Date: 2009-12-15 09:00 am (UTC)The love and prayers of friends has been a great support - Thank you.
Glad the card got there.
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Date: 2009-12-15 08:08 am (UTC)As for the rest of the things going on in your life, instead of repeating what everyone else have already said, I give you a tight, encouraging hug! :)
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Date: 2009-12-15 09:01 am (UTC)You can't have enough hugs, IMHO!
Hugs you back - the support of my friends has been a real genuine help.
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Date: 2009-12-15 07:01 pm (UTC)And my card is on its way to you.
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Date: 2009-12-15 07:26 pm (UTC)Hugs you.
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Date: 2009-12-15 08:25 pm (UTC)They, however don't want me to move to the same address, but to get a job wherever I can - and then move ... and they want to downsize, so they will probably move nearer to me. Sounds like a good idea to me.
*hugs*
Good to hear you're feeling better, regarding health.
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Date: 2009-12-16 02:50 pm (UTC)Hugs you.
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Date: 2009-12-16 08:57 am (UTC)Well if you know what is best. It seems that everyone is being affected by the credit crunch, it's just awful what is happening globally :-/
The interview sounds positive though, seems like you did well. If they dont get back to you it is more fool them. I think you would be good at that cos you seem to be excellent at explaining and I imagine in a RL situation you would be a very calming influence of a new driver. I wish you had taught me!
I am very happy your Mum and Dad are amenable to your ideas, even if they worked out how they wanted them to be. The goal is achieved so now it's stage two. Things are going to work out in this whole situation, I just know it.
You are a wonderful daughter you know, just had to add that. They must be so proud of you, I hope my girls are half the daughter you are.
*hug*
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Date: 2009-12-16 02:53 pm (UTC)Life is hard - but with faith, and support of family and friends I know that the new year will be positive.
Yes, I was suprised they didn't get back to me - and do put it down to poor management on their part.
Hugs you back.