Thank You F-List ... A Short Ramble About My Friends.
Friday, November 21st, 2008 08:56 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
debris4spikeOver this last week I did a couple of memes that were about my f-list and it really made me think ... WOW ... Don't panic, I do engage my brain occasionally!
My f-list is great - I hope that you all love your LJ friends as much as I do ... However as I type that I mean about 1/2 of you are great!
I have some genuinely amazing friends out there.
Some of whom I have been lucky enough to meet, and some I probably never will get to see in person, due to geography. But I do love you.
You have been really supportive of me, listened to my rambles and generally been really special people.
For someone who was bullied and therefore didn't have friends when I was at school, it has left me very wary of making friends. So this is a really special THANK YOU to many of you that are listed on my f-list.
You have helped me feel normal, or maybe to realise that there is no such thing as normal. As I said earlier in the year, I am OK ... and you have helped to begin to accept that.
For my friends out there, you have been great - and love reading your posts, as much as seeing various comments you make. I accept that RL takes over from time to time, but do miss you when that happens!
However the other thing that suprises me is that of the 87 people listed on my f-list, ther are about 1/2 of those people that I have never heard from, nor have I read anything they have written.
Do you even exist?
Who are you?
I just wonder why you friended me?
Maybe one day I shall hear from you - it would be nice if you said Hi at some point.
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Date: 2008-11-21 09:37 pm (UTC)And cos I am an anal control freak, if people dont comment on my LJ for longer than a month, and it is locked down to friend only, I simply cut them... But I know that's not what most do so I am I am in the minority.
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Date: 2008-11-22 12:42 pm (UTC)I just find it weird that people have asked to friend me - yet that is the only contact I have had with them.
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Date: 2008-11-22 01:36 pm (UTC)I didn't start posting anything really personal until about 6 months ago, in fact I didnt even post every day back then, it was like twice or three times a week or so and it was then I decided that I only wanted people to see my entries if I knew they were actually reading them and one reply to a post a month is not too much to ask I dont think...
I think some people like to have a huge flist to feel good or like they have a lot of friends, but just like in RL if you never call or bother with someone, they're not your friend are they?
Though I know my opinion on this is not the same as everyone else, we all run our LJ how we see fit after all.....
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Date: 2008-11-21 09:59 pm (UTC)I find the f-list thing odd too sometimes. I have over 100 'friends' and yet I can pretty much guarantee that there are only about 30 people that pop in regularly.
It's strange isn't it.
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Date: 2008-11-21 11:33 pm (UTC)and Deb, I love you too!!!!!! though shame, but I don't comment much :(( sorry hon..
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Date: 2008-11-22 12:45 pm (UTC)Just the rest ... ???
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Date: 2008-11-22 12:44 pm (UTC)Considering most of these unknowns actually friended me first - weird!
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Date: 2008-11-21 11:38 pm (UTC)(Although, as I'm typing this, you being across the pond might not have seen it. *grin*) If not, I'll have to see if it's around Youtube. ^_~
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Date: 2008-11-22 04:28 pm (UTC)Love nad *hugs* back
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Date: 2008-11-22 05:02 pm (UTC)*hugs*
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Date: 2008-11-22 05:03 pm (UTC)Yes, this list of people I don't know seems weird, when my friends grow and develope over the months.
*hugs*
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Date: 2008-11-22 05:04 pm (UTC)Love and *hugs* ... Glad you are around, whenever you can be.
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Date: 2008-11-22 10:13 am (UTC)I'm an intermittent LJ friend at the moment, but do always get round to reading your posts even if I'm not able to comment or join in with the memes. (I read when I can at work but it's not so easy to comment there).
Did you see - Alien Western is official - we're going to have Outlaw Sam James next year. Squeeeee!
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Date: 2008-11-22 05:05 pm (UTC)Yes - just catching up with the Squeeeeeeee ... still think I could have taken him in hand with DJ!!
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Date: 2008-11-22 10:53 am (UTC)Some who friend me do so to read the occasional fic that crops up - a few new friends always appear about two or three chapters in to a new story - and while it would be nice to know what they think by them at least commenting once(!) I content myself that they must be reading as they are still listing me as one of their friends!
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Date: 2008-11-22 05:07 pm (UTC)Yes, one or two on my list, I would love to know how they are ... but there again, I have also made some great friends, so that's the important thing.
*hugs*
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Date: 2008-11-22 11:29 am (UTC)That is something that I can relate with you 100%.
I was bullied at school, too. And it will follow me for the rest of my life. Fortunately, just like you, I've started to come to terms with it during the last ten years or so. Thanks to a couple of friends I found and especially my current job. It was incredibly important to me to notice that I can handle interacting with people (I'm in customer service) and that my co-workers accept me as part of the group and that I can be myself with them.
We haven't been friends for long, but I know already that you are genuinely nice and warm person. You are most definitely OK. ::hugs you::
Oh, and btw, this is also one of the biggest reasons why I identify with Spike!
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Date: 2008-11-22 05:15 pm (UTC)Thank you for sharing about your schooling as well - these people just will never realise the damage they do.
But, together, as friends, we can win.
*hugs* you back tightly - I am glad we are friends.
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Date: 2008-11-22 05:41 pm (UTC)Couldn't agree with you more. And yes, we can win!
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Date: 2008-11-22 11:33 am (UTC)::love and hugs::
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Date: 2008-11-22 05:08 pm (UTC)Love and *hugs* to you.
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Date: 2008-11-22 12:43 pm (UTC)AND I read your posts every day.
I'm not much for commenting - but I have always loved your posts about your horse and pets - and of course, the JM Loooovvvvee.
I don't post often - esp not over the holidays when I am busy - but I like being able to keep up with everyone's life...
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Date: 2008-11-22 05:17 pm (UTC)*hugs*
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Date: 2008-11-22 04:19 pm (UTC)I, too, love your posts about DJ and your life. I've always loved horses and feel like I get to live a horsewoman's life vicariously through you. :-)
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Date: 2008-11-22 05:18 pm (UTC)Glad DJ keeps you amused - I enjoy keeping his blog for him - LOL
*hugs*
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Date: 2008-11-23 02:10 pm (UTC)ramblingupdating regularily ... and try to get a range. Glad to know you enjoy.*hugs*